Reprinted with permission from JOFA,The Jewish Orthodox feminist Alliance.
We know that the Jewish wedding ceremony is laden with meaning, both on a legal and metaphoric level. What then does the huppah represent? Most people intuitively understand the huppah as representing a home that the groom (hatan) and bride (kallah) will build together.
The Huppah: The Groom’s Domain
In fact, according to the halakhic sources the huppah does represent a home–but the home belongs to the groom–and its role in the ceremony is to mark the transfer of the woman from her father’s house to that of her husband. However, the midrash provides a different understanding of the bride’s entry into the huppah, in which the huppah is symbolic of the beginning of a mutual and equal relationship between the bride and the groom, who are poised to establish a home together.
The dominant view in halakhic sources is that the huppah is the reshut, or domain, of the groom, and this is why he enters it first, and then brings the bride into his home. According to the Shulkhan Arukh the nissuin has only taken place once the bride has entered his house, which in the halakhic sources is the symbolic purpose of the huppah. Other halakhic sources are more explicit in their language and clearly refer to the huppah as the “reshut ha-ba’al,” the domain of the groom.
This symbolism seems to be further reinforced by the minhag, or custom, (which my husband and I followed at our own wedding) for the groom to enter the huppah, and then come back out when the bride arrives, in order to accompany her into the huppah. This custom is widely understood as representing the woman’s leaving the domain of her father and entering the domain of her husband. It is as though the groom, being a good host, greets the bride and says “welcome to my home.”
This interpretation of the custom can be extracted from certain midrashim as well. The midrashim on the giving of the Torah (Matan Torah) compare the arrival of B’nei Yisrael at Mt. Sinai, to the arrival of the bride at her huppah. Exodus 19:17 reads “Moshe took the nation out of the camp to meet [likrat] God.” On the words “to meet,” the midrash says that Moshe told B’nei Yisrael to leave the camp and go to the mountain because God, the hatan, is waiting to meet the people, his bride, so that He may accompany them into the huppah.