Managing Our Anger

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Reprinted with permission from Torah Topics for Today.

Everyone gets angry at one time or another. But the difference between purposeful, productive anger and destructive anger is vast. Appropriate anger can be used to make a point passionately, but in measured terms. However, when we are out of control, anger can be counterproductive, making us incapable of communicating effectively. Furthermore, it can hurt those around us and be especially hurtful and frightening to children.
managing your anger
In our Torah portion this week there is a story of two men fighting with one another. One is so angry that he curses the other, using God’s name in vain. The Torah makes clear that cursing, even when one does so in the course of anger, is not permissible. Anger doesn’t excuse destructive behavior. 

We might commit many destructive acts when we are angry. We might throw things, slam doors, or curse. However, when possible, controlling anger in a measured and purposeful way is the best way to model good communication. The best way to control anger is to think about what the point of the anger is before acting. We can then make a conscious decision concerning whether getting angry is the best course of action for the situation at hand.

TALK TO YOUR KIDS
about the destructive things people sometimes do when they get angry.

CONNECT TO THEIR LIVES:

·    What makes you angry?   
·    What do you do when you get angry? 
·    How do you feel when someone else gets angry?   
What are the best ways to manage your anger?

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Dianne Cohler-Esses is the first Syrian Jewish woman to be ordained as a rabbi. She was ordained in 1995 at the Jewish Theological Seminary. She is currently a freelance educator and writer, teaching and writing about a wide range of Jewish subjects. She lives in New York City with her journalist husband and their three children.

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