How to Raise a Jewish Feminist

Some useful tips for raising children in a religion--and world--that still tends to privilege what is male.


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For the past year or so, my wife and I have been referring to God as “she” in order to counter in our children’s minds the male God imagery that abounds. And every once in a while, Aliza, our four-and-a-half year old tells us that it is wrong to call God a “he” or a “she” because God is not a person. She doesn’t use the word “gender” yet, but her imaging of God has an innocent and insightful non-gender purity about it.Mother and Daughter feminists


Raising girls in a world that is still dominated by boys is a challenge. Raising religious girls in a world that overwhelmingly affirms the image of God as male is even more difficult. As a father, I want Aliza and Hallel to dream and be able to accomplish their dreams without the barriers of gender. As a Jewish father, I want my daughters to feel as if they have every right to spirituality, leadership and innovation within Judaism. I would love for them to follow in the footsteps of their rabbi mother, but not feel her pains of alienation from tradition.

Raising girls to be Jewish feminists is probably easier than raising boys to be feminists. Yet the task for our generation of parents is aided by the fact that our children will be part of the first American Jewish generation that will have a critical mass of women rabbis, thinkers, writers, and leaders to serve as role models. Indeed, it is somewhat of a novelty for our children to meet male rabbis.

I want our daughters to be raised as Jewish feminists not only because I want their religious self-esteem to be high, but because Judaism itself needs this corrective after 4,000 years of development. By including the voices of the other half of the Jewish world, I suspect Judaism would become far more dynamic and relevant.

Here are some ideas to help you raise Jewish feminists:

1)      God talk. If we teach our children that we are all made in God’s image, we can’t then tell them that God sits in a chair in Heaven, stroking his beard, and decides who shall live and who shall die. The first images we plant in those fertile, spiritual minds is likely to stick and it should not be of a male God. The second commandment tells us not to erect idols. Creating God as a male God is a form of idolatry and can potentially disempower girls spiritually.

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Yosef Israel Abramowitz is a writer and serial social entrepreneur in the Jewish and social justice realms. He is the co-founder of Jewish Family & Life! and he has produced much of the content for BabagaNewz, JVibe, JBooks,, and Sh'ma.

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