Double Ring Ceremonies

How the bride can give the groom a ring without halakhic (Jewish law) problems.

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In the traditional wedding ceremony, known as kiddushin, the groom gives a ring to the bride, who accepts it but does not offer a ring in return. Today, a growing number of couples would like to have an actual exchange of rings under the huppah [wedding canopy].


In response to such a query in 1970, Rabbi Moshe Feinstein--one of the 20th century's most eminent rabbinic authorities--ruled that a bride's giving of a ring to the groom would not invalidate the groom's properly executed kiddushin, even if done immediately afterwards (Iggrot Moshe, Even Ha'Ezer, 3:18). Nevertheless, he held that it was still impermissible to perform such a ceremony. Rabbi Feinstein's primary concern was that to do so would be misrepresentative and mislead people as to what constitutes halakhic [legal] kiddushin.

As a result of this ruling, most Orthodox rabbis will not do a two-ring ceremony at all. Those rabbis who do agree to perform two-ring ceremonies insist that the bride give her ring to the groom in a way that makes it clear that it is not part of the kiddushin. Thus, the bride will not Double ring ceremonies for Jewish allowed to say any kiddushin-like language, such as "Vearastikh li l'olam"--"I have betrothed you to me forever." 

In most cases, rabbis will also insist that the ring be given after sheva berakhot, the seven blessings toward the end of the wedding ceremony, so as to be performed well after the kiddushin has been completed.

Some rabbis will allow the ring to be given immediately after the kiddushin, but will make a clear declaration beforehand, along the lines of, "Now that the kiddushin has been completed, Rivka will give Yitzhak a ring as a symbol of her love and affection." (See Joel Wolowelsky, Women, Jewish Law, and Modernity, p.68.)


I share Rabbi Moshe Feinstein's concerns, and insist on similar parameters. However, this continues to marginalize the bride's giving of the ring. One solution is for the bride and groom to exchange rings after the sheva berakhot and make mutual statements of love and commitment, in addition to the ring that the groom gives the bride as the act of kiddushin.

A more elegant solution is possible. The practice in Sephardic communities and in Jerusalem is for the groom to assume his ketubah obligations under the huppah, immediately following the kiddushin. This obligation is assumed through an act of kinyan (acceptance of ownership or responsibility), classically performed by the groom taking an object (often a handkerchief or a pen) from the officiating rabbi in the presence of witnesses. However, since the groom is obligating himself to the bride, it is actually more appropriate that the bride, and not the rabbi, give him the object. (See Shulkhan Arukh, Hoshen Mishpat, 195:1,3.) This object can be a ring.

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Rabbi Dov Linzer

Rabbi Dov Linzer is the Rosh HaYeshiva and Head of Academics of Yeshivat Chovevei Torah Rabbinical School in New York. Rabbi Linzer lectures widely at synagogues and conferences on topics relating to halakhah, Orthodoxy, and modernity.