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Question: During synagogue services, when the congregation is invited publicly to recite Kaddish for any of their respective family members, is there anything wrong, or out of order, or religiously problematic with reciting a personal Kaddish for those who were killed in the Holocaust?
–Milton, Madison WI
Answer: The Mourner’s Kaddish is a simple prayer with deep emotional significance for those who recite it. Traditionally, it is recited by those who are in mourning for an immediate family member. After the death of a parent, it is customary to recite Kaddish for 11 months. After the death of a sibling, spouse, or child it is customary to recite Kaddish for one month.
According to some traditional sources, Kaddish helps elevate the deceased into the World to Come. Others explain the practice as a way of reaffirming one’s faith in God after the death of a loved one. One thing is clear: For nearly 1000 years rabbis have considered saying Kaddish to be an important and evocative experience for mourners.
I asked Rabbi Kerry Olitzky, Executive Director of the Jewish Outreach Initiative, about reciting Kaddish for people who are not immediate family members–for example, for victims of the Holocaust–and any halakhic challenges it may present. Rabbi Olitzky told me that anyone may take on the responsibility of reciting Kaddish. Often when a person dies without having children his or her relatives or friends recite Kaddish, even though they are not technically considered mourners of the deceased.
But Rabbi Olitzky warned that when one takes on the responsibility of Kaddish, especially for an indefinite period of time beyond the normal, defined mourning period, one risks diminishing its power when the time comes to recite Kaddish for a close relative. This may not be a great concern for you, but it’s worth taking into consideration.
It may also be helpful to note that the Israeli rabbinate actually designated the 10th of Tevet (this year it falls on December 27th) as Yom Ha-Kaddish Ha-clali–the date for reciting Kaddish for victims of the Holocaust whose yahrtzeits are unknown. Though not universally observed, it is an appropriate time to commemorate the victims of the Shoah with Kaddish.
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