What Taylor Swift Can Teach Us About Accepting Apologies

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I bought Taylor Swift’s new album on Monday night and have been listening to it on repeat since then. (Be quiet, haters. It’s really good!) I’ve been a Swiftie since the first time I heard one of her songs on the radio, which was, fittingly, while driving into Nashville for the first time. You may recall that my second ever blog post at Mixed Multitudes compared Taylor to the Bible (yes, really).

Anyway, this blog isn’t about how much I love Taylor Swift, it’s about how Taylor is apparently bad at accepting apologies.

You remember the whole MTV Video award disaster from 2009, right?

Immediately after the debacle, Kanye posted an apology online. Then he went on Leno the next day and apologized again. (Also, Leno pulled the ‘what would your dead mother think about this’ and I cannot decide if that was a cruel or an important question.) And then this year before the MTV Video awards Kanye apologized again, in a lengthy, weird stream of consciousness tweetfest. Now, obviously I’m on on Team Taylor here, but it does seem like ‘Ye was sincere, and he does almost all the things you’re supposed to do in an apology. He admits what he did was wrong, doesn’t try to make excuses, and acknowledges that his actions were hurtful. He also says he wants to make it up to Taylor. (He also says, “The ego is overdone… like hoodies.”)

So then the Video Awards roll around again and both Taylor and Kanye perform and Taylor’s song is explicitly about Ye, and features the following lyrics:
It’s all right, just wait and see
Your string of lights is still bright to me
Oh, who you are is not where you’ve been
You’re still an innocent

Not to get all Rashi here, but as far as I can tell she’s saying, “Hey Kanye, it’s okay, you’re still very talented, you screwed up, you’re still kind of a kid.” Have truer words ever been spoken? No. Is it the best song ever written? Not at all. But still. The message is gracious and fair. She’s saying she’s not going to hold it against him, and acknowledging that the reason he acted like a jerk is because he’s never really grown up.

Posted on October 27, 2010

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