I Asked You Once, I Asked You Twice…
Maurice Sendak, one of the greatest authors of our time, is turning 80–and, according to the New York Times, is just as tortured as ever, and every bit as imaginative. The man who gave voice to my rage as a child in Where the Wild Things Are, fear in Outside Over There, and who wrote about going out into the greater world in We Are All in the Dumps with Jack and Guy went through a hard year, after a triple-bypass surgery that “left him too weak to work” and the death of his companion of over 50 years. In the wake of that passing, the Times reporter asked Sendak:
Was there anything he had never been asked? He paused for a few moments and answered, “Well, that I’m gay.”

He says he never told his parents because he thought they’d be ashamed, and now wishes he had. He never came out publicly because, as a gay man doing children’s books in the ’50s and ’60s, he would have been crucified. Even now, I’m afraid that a man who made my childhood a more comforting and imaginative place to be is going to be a bullseye for a new regime that didn’t ban books, but might have.
The Advocate’s Popnography column has a brief tribute, and a great photograph (above).
5 Responses to “I Asked You Once, I Asked You Twice…”
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Goldie
Member Since: Sep 2008 Posts: 3
I cried when I read this. Thanks Matthue. I am so glad that the world has become a place where an 80 year icon, a Maurice Sendak, can finally come out. That’s beautiful.
Ezekah
Member Since: Oct 2006 Posts: 588
That’s beautiful? What’s next, various writers coming out and telling us how often they view pornography?
matthue
Member Since: Jul 2008 Posts: 75
Actually, straight writers like Philip Roth have got the bases covered on that one.
The Doctor
Member Since: Feb 2004 Posts: 1224
Giving publicity to gay writers will only lead to the hard stuff, like child-labor law violations…
Goldie
Member Since: Sep 2008 Posts: 3
Sendak did not come out and discuss a 50 year relationship with pornography. He came out about his fifty year partnership with a man. Since when does gay = pornography?