God Wants You To Get Laid (Or Eat Chocolate Cake)

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I love this article in the New York Times about a pastor who told his congregation of some 20,000 people to spend a week having sex at least once a day with their spouses.

A week after the Rev. Ed Young challenged husbands and wives among his flock of 20,000 to strengthen their unions through Seven Days of Sex, his advice was — keep it going.

Mr. Young, an author, a television host and the pastor of the evangelical Fellowship Church, issued his call for a week of “congregational copulation� among married couples on Nov. 16, while pacing in front of a large bed. Sometimes he reclined on the paisley coverlet while flipping through a Bible, emphasizing his point that it is time for the church to put God back in the bed.

“Today we’re beginning this sexperiment, seven days of sex,� he said, with his characteristic mix of humor, showmanship and Scripture. “How to move from whining about the economy to whoopee!�

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But if you make the time to have sex, it will bring you closer to your spouse and to God, he has said. You will perform better at work, leave a loving legacy for your children to follow and may even prevent an extramarital affair.

“If you’ve said, ‘I do,’ do it,� he said. As for single people, “I don’t know, try eating chocolate cake,� he said.

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I’m all for married people having sex and talking about it at their place of worship–I think this kind of thing needs to happen more often in synagogues, actually. I have to say, though, I’m a little offended by the ‘try eating chocolate cake’ crack.  I mean, really? This is the best he can do?

If we’re so hell-bent on making people happy and sexually fulfilled in marriage, then we need to start educating and discussing good relationship skills well before the wedding day and the sexual problems begin. I love cake as much as the next girl, but I gotta tell you, I’m way more into my boyfriend than I’m into, say, Duncan Hines.

For a more official Jewish position on premarital sex, click here.

Posted on November 24, 2008

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15 thoughts on “God Wants You To Get Laid (Or Eat Chocolate Cake)

  1. Ezekah

    Sex within marriage is wonderful and holy. I’d say that it’s about time that some xians admitted that, instead of treating everything about the body as being dirty or sinful.

  2. The Doctor

    Was the pastor telling the 20,000 to have sex with their spouses daily, to have sex with each other’s spouses daily, or was he volunteering to set an [exhausting] example?

    No question sex is great, but I agree that forcing a good thing more frequently than it feels right can turn fun into a job. And if it’s a job, it’ll be regulated by the Department of Labor [or at least the end product will be...]

  3. clara1

    Doc,

    The pastor was telling his married couples to have sex with their spouses. After the week, he told his people to go for another week. When he said this a wife elbowed her husband and her husband said. we’ll do it twice tomorrow, I’m tired.” I saw this on the national news.

    Even the pastor said that he wasn’t able to do the job and that’s why he called for another week.

    Clara

  4. The Doctor

    Clara,

    It was a joke. At least my first paragraph was. But any good thing done on a schedule rather than when the spirit moves you [a term that the pastor should be aware of] will become a chore and therefore have the fun removed.

  5. Tamar Fox Post author

    On my first draft of this post I had a different ending.
    “I love cake as much as the next girl, but I gotta tell you, if my boyfriend was putting the moves on and I suggested we just have a nice piece of chocolate cake I know exactly what he’s suggest in response. Here’s a hint: it still involves chocolate cake…”

    Too much, I thought. But–maybe not.

  6. Ezekah

    [clara1]Doc,
    The pastor was telling his married couples to have sex with their spouses. After the week, he told his people to go for another week. When he said this a wife elbowed her husband and her husband said. “we’ll do it twice tomorrow, I’m tired.” I saw this on the national news.

    Even the pastor said that he wasn’t able to do the job and that’s why he called for another week.

    Clara

    Oy! Someone should let these guys know that fingers don’t get tired.

  7. jrb

    That campaign was obviously thought up by a man. The articles I read had it at a month of daily sex, and the men interviewed were yukking it up, while at least one author acknowledged, and recorded the misgivings of their wives. I mean really, it sounds good, but sex doesn’t make a relationship good automatically, rather, it’s the relationship that makes sex good. Sex is supposed to cement what is already there, not create something that isn’t, and that really got lost in the media hype which accompanied that church’s campaign.

  8. Aliza123

    I liked your original ending better Tamar!! – and, as always, love your insight about whatever you are writing about.

    I shared “How to Write a D’Var Torah That Doesn’t Suck” with my rabbi the other day. I have to write a D’Var Torah for my daughter’s Bat Mitzvah next month and that article was so helpful to me – it told me everything I needed to know, plus it helped me not take myself so seriously (which I very rarely do!).

  9. The Doctor

    Egad, Ezekah!

    A better observation: you don’t have to take a battery home to meet your mother…

  10. clara1

    Doc,

    I agree with you. I thought the pastor was kinda stupid for putting that command forward. And, men can have headaches too.

    clara

  11. Ezekah

    Clara

    Did you know that in Judaism, it is a mitzvot to satisy the wife’s needs first?

    It was thousands of years later that Dr. Ruth came out with her “Woman are like crock pots and men are like microwaves” remark.

  12. clara1

    Ez,

    Yes, I did know that; but I think the pastor is nuts.

    Doc,

    Where do you come up with these witty sayings?

    Clara

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