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Simcha Paull Raphael

About Simcha Paull Raphael

Simcha Paull Raphael is an assistant professor in the Department of Jewish Studies at Temple University, and has a private practice as a psychotherapist specializing in bereavement.

Preparing for Death

Reprinted with permission from Jewish Views of the Afterlife (Jason Aronson).

Learning How to Die

There were hasidic rebbes [masters and teachers] who invested time learning specifically how to die. The following stories indicate how the hasidim believed one could develop the ability to be consciously aware during the process of dying.

A hasid [devotee] of Rabbi Pinhas of Kinsk, a grandson of Rabbi Yerahmiel, once came into the master’s room and found him lying down and playing with his watch. He was surprised because it was almost noon and the rabbi had not yet prayed. Just then Rabbi Yerahmiel said to the hasid: “You are surprised at what I am doing? But do you really know what I am doing? I am learning how to leave the world.”

preparing for death in judaismOn Hanukkah, when Rabbi Abraham Moshe was in the city of Biala with his mother, he said to her: “Mother, I have a craving to die.” She answered: “I heard from your father that one has to learn to die.” He answered: “I have learned it.” Again she said: “I heard from your father that one has to learn for a very long time, to learn it properly.” He answered: “I have learned long enough,” and lay down. He died on the seventh day of the [holiday]. Later his mother found out that before going on his journey, he had visited his favorite dis­ciples and taken leave of them,

Conscious Preparation for the Final Moment

By accepting the inevitability of death, the hasidic rebbe could be totally prepared for the final moment of life, the moment of the transi­tion to the other side. There is a story of one rebbe who called together his disciples toward the end of the Sabbath. He taught them a new niggun (wordless melody) and requested they sing it for him. As they did, he leaned back, offering his soul to God, and died leaving this plane of ex­istence consciously and prepared.

Ensuring a Peaceful Death

The hasidic masters knew that the less attached one was to physi­cal-plane life and to the drama of one’s personal life story, the easier it was to die peacefully. Certain attitudes and actions were considered ideal. Like their rabbinic and kabbalistic predecessors, the hasidim believed that an ethical, God-fearing life was always an effective way of preparing for a painless, peaceful death. As the Slonimer Rebbe taught: “Happy is one who end his days in repentance and holy service, and dies with a clear conscience.”