In recent years, many synagogues and families have begun asking bar/bat mitzvah candidates to do “tzedakah (social action) projects” as part of their bar/bat mitzvah preparations. This requirement makes explicit to these teens the idea that the mitzvot (commandments) to which they will be obligated involve not only Jewish ritual but also social action. The following article, which offers pre-teens suggestions on how to select appropriate projects, is reprinted with permission from Ziv Tzedakah Fund, Inc.
How can we add that special ingredient of tikkun olam, or fixing the world, to our upcoming simcha (joyous event) so that many more people can benefit from our happiness and joy?
It’s really easy to find that special idea, the one you will enjoy working on and the one that will give you a special glow when you complete your work. In the process, you will see how many other people’s lives have been changed because you cared and you care.
Ask Yourself the Four Questions
Start by asking yourself a few questions.
We all know the traditional four questions recited at the Passover seder–Ma nishtana haleila hazeh…. But here is a different set of four questions, as well as a Question We Need to Ask Before We Ask the Four Questions.
First, we must ask: What are the other person’s (the person we want to help) needs?
Then, and only then, should we ask the Four Questions:
1. What am I good at?
2. What do I like to do?
3. What bothers me so much about what is wrong in the world that I get very angry and want to do whatever I can to change it?
4. Whom do I know?
And finally: Why not?
#1 may include: giving big hugs, playing soccer, baking chocolate chip cookies, talking on the phone for hours, being a computer whiz, or drawing or painting the most beautiful pictures.
#2 In order to answer what you like to do, you will have to think a little bit more. What activities give you the most pleasure? Can you sit and read for hours? Are you really excited about playing the guitar or keyboard?