Reprinted with permission from Finding Each Other in Judaism, © 2001 (UAHC Press, New York).
In the Middle Ages, a custom arose that twelve candles were lit at the brit, signifying the twelve tribes of Israel into which the infant is inducted. The child is enveloped in the embrace of community. While the brit was traditionally a celebration involving the male infant, increasingly today covenant ceremonies are created for daughters. Parents are encouraged to further personalize the covenant by writing their own dreams for their child, their commitments to provide a family environment that will nourish the child’s growth. (That statement of aspiration at the day of the [welcoming the child into the] covenant may be read thirteen years later on the day of the child’s bar/bat mitzvah.) The infant is given a name and the traditional benediction is recited: “As the child has entered the covenant, so may he/she enter the world of Torah, marriage, and the practice of good deeds.” The benediction contains the threefold goals of the human being in its spiritual journey. Whatever the chosen vocation or profession may be, a person’s spiritual career should include the quest for moral wisdom, consecrated love, and the practice of justice and mercy.
Traditionally, the father is bound to see to it that his male child is circumcised. If there is no father present or if the child should have a father who does not see to it that he is circumcised, the obligation falls upon the beit din, the representatives of the Jewish community. If the child should be an orphan and have no father [the technical, traditional Jewish definition of an “orphan”], a moving prayer is recited: “Thou God of all flesh, father of orphans, be Thou a father unto him and he will be a son unto Thee. May his entering into the covenant be a comfort and a solace to his mother and all his family.” That compassionate prayer reminds us that the community plays a responsible role in the rites of passage. The minyan, ten Jews [traditionally, ten men] above the age of thirteen, is the minimum required for congregational worship and public Torah reading.
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