The Ethics of Burial and Mourning

The Jewish approach to death and mourning reflects a two-part ethic: the equal treatment of rich and poor in death, and the importance of channeling, and then limiting, our mourning.


Excerpted with permission from Finding Each Other in Judaism (UAHC Press).

In the absence of spiritual and moral rationale, rituals are frequently performed without spirit and meaning. A folk proverb observes: "Wisdom is often hidden under a ragged cloth." Asking questions helps ritual regain meaning. 

Why are so many rites surrounding the funeral austerely simple? Why the plainness of the casket, the dress of the deceased, even the discouragement of flowers? In a profoundly moving passage found in the Talmud (Moed Katan27b),the Sages remind us of the history of ritual customs and the ethics of mourning and of the funeral. In an early era, they explain, the expense of the burial was great, and the burial fell harder on the next of kin than his own death. So, the dead man’s next of kin frequently abandoned the deceased. The kinsmen of the deceased fled, embarrassed.

Rabban Gamliel came forward and, disregarding his own dignity, ordered that he be dressed in simple linen cloth instead of woolen, expensive vestments when the time came for his funeral. Thereafter, the people followed his lead to dress their deceased in modest linen clothing. As a result of Rabban Gamliel’s example, a series of funeral reforms took place due to a desire to respect the poor. Formerly, the rich would be brought out for burial on ornamental, tall, stately beds covered with rich coverlets, while the poor were placed on a plain bier, a box. The poor felt ashamed, and mipnei kavodan shel aniyim, "out of respect for the poor," the Rabbis instead insisted that all deceased should be buried in a plain box (ibid.).

Similarly, in earlier times, the face of the rich deceased was left uncov­ered, while the face of the poor deceased was covered, because the faces of the poor who lived in years of famine turned livid. The poor felt shamed to the point of abandoning the deceased, and therefore a tradition was instituted that everybody’s face should be covered. This reform too was based on the reiterated principle "out of respect for the poor" (ibid.).

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Harold Schulweis is the senior rabbi of Valley Beth Shalom in Encino, California. He is the founder of Jewish Foundation for Rescuers and the author of For Those Who Can't Believe.

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