Renewing Ourselves & Our Visions

Five suggestions to focus your spiritual preparations for the High Holidays.


The following piece describes five traditions associated with the High Holiday season and offers suggestions for focusing on them in our lives. Reprinted with permission from Journey, A Journal of Jewish Feminism, published by Ma’yan: The Jewish Women’s Project.

The Jewish month of Elul is traditionally a time for personal reflection and spiritual preparation for the New Year. It offers a structured opportunity to examine what is holding us back from being who we really want to be. If we use the period of Elul to take concrete steps towards becoming advocates for change, together we can make a difference!

Relationship With God

woman spiritually preparing for high holidaysTradition: The word Elul can be understood as an acronym for the Hebrew verse Ani L’dodi V’dodi Li–“I am for my beloved and my beloved is for me.”

Suggestion: Think about your relationship with whatever you conceive of as the Divine Presence. Try to imagine a more intimate relationship, as if God were your beloved. You might want to write a letter addressed to this Beloved in which you speak as you would to a close friend. You may want to honor yourself as “created in God’s image” by treating yourself as you would treat a beloved.

Human Relationships

Tradition: The teshuvah [repentance] process operates on two levels, one involving human relationships and the other involving our relationship with God. According to tradition, one resolves human relationships during Elul by asking forgiveness for wrong doings. If one earnestly asks three times, the obligation is fulfilled.

Suggestion: As part of your teshuvah process try to sort out difficult relationships (with people, organizations) that drain you of your creative energy. Think about what kind of closure you need in order to move forward into the next year.


Tradition: The shofar (ram’s horn) is blown at the conclusion of every weekday morning prayer service during Elul.

Suggestion: Use this month to listen for the shofar’s rousing call. Carve out some time to think through the kinds of changes you want to make in the coming year. What’s holding you back?

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Tamara Cohen is a Jewish feminist writer and educator currently living with her partner is Gainesville, Florida. She is the spiritual leader of a community in Litchfield County, CT and is on the board of Brit Tzedek V'Shalom: The Jewish Alliance for Justice and Peace.

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