“Therefore choose life” (Deuteronomy 30:19): Judaism is a life-affirming faith. Life on earth, and its benefits, are regarded as divine blessings. Their legitimate enjoyment is not only permitted but mandated. Asceticism and otherworldliness are not in keeping with the mainstream of Jewish thought and tradition.
Our joyful affirmation of the pleasures, challenges, and responsibilities of our earthly existence makes the inevitability of death the more difficult to confront. Frankly, most of us are afraid of death.
In the first place, our fear stems from our terror of the unknown–and nothing is more unknown than “the valley of the shadow of death.” We cannot imagine our own death. Our mind is incapable of portraying the emptiness, the absence of existence which some of us imagine death to be-and of identifying ourselves with that nothingness. We do not know what death is, but we are intuitively certain that it will deprive us of the companionship of those we love, and of everything we cherish and enjoy. We block it out completely. We are simply unable to confront our own death.
In the second place, our fear of death relates not only to our own demise, but to the passing of those we love. Our contemplation of their passing, and of thus being deprived of those with whom our lives are inextricably bound, is frightening in itself. Our lives will have to continue in the void created by the loss of their companionship, their love, and the reassuring security of their physical presence. Because our contemplation of their passing makes us increasingly aware of our vulnerability, we often refuse to confront the inevitable.
Our refusal to confront the fact of death is both wrong and irresponsible.
Five Reasons For Confronting The Reality Of Death
1. Death is inevitable and cannot simply be wished away. Sometimes it announces its coming in long illness; sometimes it comes unannounced, with shattering, unexpected suddenness. But come it must, and we should be prepared to deal with the havoc it creates–calmly and reasonably.
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