The Question Is the Blessing

By asking Yaakov his name, his wrestling adversary challenges him to examine himself and whether he is ready to enter a new phase of his life.

By Rabbi Neal Joseph Loevinger

The following article is reprinted with permission from Kolel: The Adult Centre for Liberal Jewish Learning.

Overview

At the beginning of this week's parsha, Yaakov [Jacob] sends messengers ahead to his estranged brother Esav, who has a large assembly of men coming toward Yaakov and his family. The night before he meets his brother, Yaakov wrestles with the angel who changes his name to Yisrael. The meeting with Esav goes peacefully. When Yaakov and his family arrive at the town of Shechem, his daughter Dinah is sexually assaulted by the prince of the town, and Yaakov's sons go on a violent rampage in retribution. Both Rahel and Yitzhak die and are buried. The parsha ends with a review of all Yitzhak's descendants.

In Focus

"Then he said, 'Let me go, for the dawn is breaking.' He [Yaakov] replied: 'I will not let you go unless you bless me.' He said to him, 'What is your name?' He answered, 'Yaakov.' He said 'No longer will your name be Yaakov, but Israel, because you have fought with God and with men and have prevailed.' " (Genesis 32:26-28)

Pshat

All alone the night before he is to finally meet up again with his estranged brother Esav, Yaakov is approached by a mysterious stranger, who wrestles with him until the dawn. The text says this figure is a "man," but most of the commentators assume it was some kind of angel or a holy vision. Yaakov holds on until he can reach some understanding of the moment; at the end of the struggle, the mystery wrestler announces that Yaakov, like his grandfather Avraham, will receive a new name.

Drash

There have been many, many interpretations of Yaakov's "God-wrestling." (A term coined by Arthur Waskow, I believe.) Some commentators, as noted above, understand this as an encounter with an angel, and some, especially Rambam, understand Yaakov as experiencing some kind of holy vision, rather than an actual wrestling match.

 

While most of the commentators focus on the homiletical meaning of Yaakov's change of name, they tend to gloss over the passage before it, presumably assuming that it's just a rhetorical setup for the announcing of the name Yisrael. By asking Yaakov's name, and getting the reply "Yaakov," the messenger can more dramatically announce the new name by which Yaakov will be known.

 

Along these lines, Radak (R. David Kimchi, a 12th century French commentator) seems to explain the angel's question as just a formality:

 

This question is an opening to the conversation, like "Where are you?" (Genesis 3:9) and "What is that in your hand?" (Exodus 4:2), and other similar places, because he knew his name when he was sent to him.

 

The first example Radak offers of a rhetorical question is from story of the Garden of Eden. After the man and woman eat the fruit of the tree of knowledge, they become self-conscious of their nakedness, and attempt to hide from God in the Garden. God asks--knowing full well the answer!--"where are you?"

 

Radak's second example comes from Moshe's experience at the burning bush. When Moshe doubts that the people will believe that God has sent him, God turns Moshe's staff into a snake, prefacing the miracle with the question "what is in your hand." Again, both Moshe and God knew exactly what was in Moshe's hand, just as the wrestler knew Yaakov's name.

 

What's going on here? We might say that God was just striking up a good conversation, but Torah stories of encounters with the Divine tend to be terse and focussed. In each of the three stories Radak offers as an example of a rhetorical question, the main character is about to begin a new chapter in life - Adam is about to leave the Garden, Yaakov is about to meet his long-estranged brother, and Moshe is about to confront Pharaoh.

 

Perhaps the question is not merely a conversation-opener, but the main point of the conversation. In the case of Yaakov, the messenger seems to want Yaakov to think deeply about the meaning of his name, which we learned at his birth would represent the depth of his troubled relationship with his brother. (Cf. Genesis 25:25-27 and 27:35-37.)

 

The messenger knows not just Yaakov's name, but his history--he's asking if Yaakov has wrestled sufficiently with his own identity. "What is your name," in this context, can be understood as "are you still Yaakov, the deceiver, or are you ready to become Yisrael, the person of conscience?"

 

What's so striking about our passage is that Yaakov receives a question in response to his demand for a blessing--it seems to me that the question itself is the blessing he receives.

 

The right question, at the right time, from the right person, can change a person's life, enabling them to see and understand themselves in an entirely new light. When God asks a question, it's not for the sake of an answer, but for the sake of an inner response, a change in the person.

 

Who am I? What is the name I have made for myself, and what is the name I am capable of achieving? Just to ask the question can move us towards a better answer--just to ask the question, and thus demonstrate our capacity for growth and introspection, is one of the greatest blessings we have as human beings.

 

(A d'var Torah by R. Eddie Feinstein helped me prepare this week's parsha study.)

 

Rabbi Neal Joseph Loevinger is currently the rabbi of Temple Israel of Swampscott and Marblehead, MA.  A former student at Kolel, he served as Kolel’s Director of Outreach from late 1999-2001.  He was ordained in the first graduating class of the Ziegler School of Rabbinic Studies of the University of Judaism, and holds a Master’s of Environmental Studies from York University in Toronto.