Truly Present to God and People
We can learn from
Jacob’s encounter with Esau to meet others as we would meet God.
By Rabbi Bradley Shavit Artson
The following article
is reprinted with permission from University of
Judaism.
Religious thinkers throughout the ages have pondered the
question, "How do people have the audacity to stand in the presence of
God?" Finite in power, wisdom and longevity, human beings are paltry
and insignificant when compared to a supernova or to a galaxy, let alone to the
eternal Creator who fashioned those marvels. How, then, do we have the
temerity to place ourselves before God, to address God, and to argue with God?
The same question might also be leveled toward the paradox
of standing in the presence of another human being. Each of us is a
universe in miniature--replete with our own depths and eddies, our hidden
doubts and fears and talents. None can ever fully know themselves, let
alone claim to truly know another person. So how do we summon the nerve
to address each other with intimacy and familiarity?
The inexpressible depth of one human soul exposed to the
unfathomable profundity of another, the encounter of unknown meeting ought to
silence the entire universe. It is a marvel that we can reach each other
at all. It is a paradox that the finite creatures, humanity, presume to
call to God with hope.
This week’s Torah portion expresses a similar dilemma,
contrasting the encounter of two human beings with an encounter with the Holy
Infinite One. On his way back to the Land of Israel, Jacob finally
re-establishes contact with his brother, Esau. Years before, Jacob had
deeply offended his brother, and now, as an adult and a sage, he hopes to
restore some familial connection between them. But how can he communicate
across the silence of acrimony, hidden hurt and lost years?
Jacob's words are instructive. He presents his brother
with a series of gifts, and then says to Esau, "To see your face is like
seeing the face of God, and you have received me favorably." What a
remarkable comment! Jacob compares greeting his brother with theophany
itself, argues that exchanging words with his brother is nothing less than
revelation!
So problematic was Jacob's link of his brother and God that
generations of Jewish scholars backed away from his audacious connection. Saadia Gaon (10th Century Babylon)
interprets Jacob's remarks as comparing the vision of Esau to "the face of
the prominent."
Abraham ibn Ezra
(12th Century Spain) insists that Jacob didn't mean God directly; he meant an
angel. And Radak (13th Century
France), most boldly of all, argues that Jacob mentioned seeing the angel in
order to intimidate Esau. If Esau thought that an angel was present, he
would refrain from harming his saintly brother.
What can we do with Jacob's shocking comparison? A
starting point is to note that Jacob compares Esau to God not only by saying
that seeing one is like seeing the other (a reminder that even an Esau is made
in God's image), but he also demonstrates that one serves them in the same way.
As the Ramban
(Nachmanides) notes, one brings gifts and sacrifices to worship God, and Jacob
also brought gifts and offerings to placate his aggrieved sibling.
Perhaps what the Torah, and Ramban, are pointing out is that we communicate
best not by relying on the superficial devices of words and thoughts, but
rather by allowing our deepest parts to respond to the presence of the
other.
By approaching another person with reverence and warmth
(since encountering them is like seeing the face of God), by showing our
openness to their concerns and their fears (presenting offerings before
exchanging words) we affirm the unique marvel of each individual.
Just as God asks not to be approached empty-handed, so too,
human beings should be approached with offerings of respect, affection and
marvel. Each human being offers a unique embodiment of the godly and the
mysterious. We, like Jacob, can make that comparison explicit, by
training ourselves to encounter God in everyone we meet.
Rabbi Bradley Shavit
Artson is the Dean of the Ziegler School of Rabbinic Studies at the University
of Judaism in Los Angeles. He is the
author of The Bedside Torah: Wisdom, Dreams, & Visions (McGraw Hill). For a free subscription to his weekly email
Torah commentary, please send an email request to bartson@uj.edu.