Memories of Mother
After Sarah's death, Isaac sees his mother live on in the values and person of his wife, Rebekkah.
Provided by the Jewish Theological Seminary, a Conservative rabbinical seminary and university of Jewish studies.
A newspaper reader knows from the headline what the topic of the article will be. Not so with the Torah. The title of each parashah is its first significant word; whether that word tells what will follow is somewhat up to chance. In Parashat Noah, the title does tells us who will be the central focus of the narrative. In this week's parashah, the title Haye Sarah seems to be irrelevant, misleading and yet, perhaps, fraught with meaning.
Haye Sarah means "the life of Sarah." It is thus a strange introduction for a series of events that begins with her death. The opening verse of the parashah reads, literally, "Sarah's life was one hundred twenty-seven years" (Genesis 23:1). It then goes on to tell of her death and burial. The rest of the parashah describes the recruitment of Rebekah (Rivkah) to be Isaac's wife, her return to Canaan with Abraham's servant and her marriage to Isaac. If parshiyot [Torah portions] were given a title corresponding to their central character, this one would be Haye Rivkah ("the life of Rebekah"), not Haye Sarah.
Toward the end of the parashah, Sarah does reappear--not in person, but as a memory. We are told that after Isaac meets Rebekah, he:
"... brought her into his mother Sarah's tent and took Rebekah and she became his wife and he loved her. And Isaac was comforted after his mother's death" (Genesis 24:67).
This is the first instance where the Torah notes that someone loved someone else. No such mention is made of the feelings between Adam and Eve, Noah and his (unnamed) wife, or Abraham and Sarah. Why then, would Isaac's feelings be mentioned here?
Nahmanides explains that the Torah hints that Isaac was greatly sorrowed by his mother's death and that comfort was distant from him until he was consoled by his love for Rebekah; what other reason is there that the Torah should tell of a man's love for his wife? He loved her and was comforted by her because of her likeness to Sarah in righteousness andaltruism.
Nahmanides appears to be saying that Isaac loved Rebecca not so much for herself as for her moral resemblance to his mother. It is as though he was comforted not by a flesh-and-blood person, but by an idea of a person; Isaac was in love with what Rebekah represented. One might object to Nahmanides' explanation; is this not taking a simple expression of love andemptying from it any romance? And yet, the Torah itself encourages this conclusion by reintroducing Sarah in a later scene that features Isaac and Rebekah.