Overview: Liturgy, Ritual, and Custom for Babies
The most basic ceremony for infant Jewish males has become
such a common contemporary practice that many may have forgotten its religious
purpose. The circumcision ceremony is known in Hebrew as a brit, which means covenant. Technically, it is
called brit
milah, "covenant of
circumcision." Many people know it as a "bris." Through this ritual act, each infant boy becomes
linked to the covenant between God and the Jewish people.
As a religious ceremony, the brit must be carried out by a Jew trained in
religious law, who performs the act as the conscious fulfillment of a religious
commandment (mitzvah). This person, called a mohel(feminine: "mohelet"), is often
certified by medical authorities as well. In some communities, Jewish physicians
serve as mohalim.
Circumcision must take place on
the eighth day after birth. We read in the Book of Genesis that Isaac was
circumcised on the eighth day. So must it be with all the [male] children of
Abraham. In the event of illness or other disability, the child is circumcised
when the physician declares him to be physically ready. If the baby is born
without a foreskin or for some reason has been circumcised prior to the eighth
day, the ritual of circumcision is completed by drawing a drop of blood from
the corona of skin that surrounds the head (or glans) of the penis. This
ceremony (called hatafat dam brit) is also
required for an adult male convert who was circumcised prior to his
conversion.
At the brit milah ceremony, certain individuals are honored. (Although
the English term "godparents" is sometimes used for these people,
they are not godparents in the Christian sense of the term.) The kvatterin (a woman) brings the infant forward and
hands him to the kvatter (a man). The kvatter places the infant on the knees of
the sandek
who is already seated. The sandek holds the infant while the mohel performs the circumcision.
As the circumcision is
performed, the mohel recites a berakhah (blessing) declaring that his act is in
fulfillment of a mitzvah. The parents
then recite a berakhah acknowledging
that their son has thereby entered into the covenant between God and the Jewish
people. The child's Hebrew name is then formally bestowed.
There are no laws regarding
names. Parents often spend many hours in choosing a name for their child. The
general practice among Ashkenazi families (Jews of Central or Eastern European
background) is to give the child Hebrew and English names that bear some
relationship to the name of a deceased relative whom members of the family wish
to remember. Sephardim (Jews who trace their ancestry to Spain, Portugal, or
North Africa) may name children for living relatives. Sometimes, the Hebrew
name declared at the ceremony is identical to that of the relative; sometimes
it is related by sound or meaning. Sometimes the child's Hebrew name is simply
the Hebrew form of his English name (for example, Yosef for Joseph, or Shmuel
for Samuel); at other times parents choose a Hebrew name with the same first
initial as the English name. Many people choose their children's Hebrew names
from the Bible, from rabbinic literature, or from the growing collection of
modern Israeli names.
The birth of
a daughter is marked in another fashion. Traditionally, there was no ceremony
for a girl parallel to a brit. Girls were named soon after birth in the
synagogue at a service at which the Torah was read. Neither the child nor her
mother needed to be present at the naming ceremony in the synagogue. The father
would be honored by being called to the Torah, a prayer would be recited conveying
the child's Hebrew name and wishing her a long and healthy life of fulfillment,
and all present would wish the father and his family mazal tov. This modest ceremony for girls is still practiced in
many communities today.
Some Jews today, not satisfied
with this practice, have been developing additional ceremonies to celebrate the
birth of a daughter. These ceremonies go by several names, one of which is
"simchat bat" ("a celebration of [the birth of] a
daughter"). Usually, the simchah (celebration) is held at a
convenient time (not necessarily on the eighth day after birth) when both
parents and other relatives can be present. Often, the baby formally receives
her Hebrew name, and parents and other relatives participate by reading
selections from the liturgy or sharing reflections. Sometimes, families
arrange for their child to be named in synagogue as well, so that she can be
welcomed by the entire community.
Reprinted from Embracing
Judaism, by Simcha Kling, edited by Carl Perkins, copyright by the Rabbinical
Assembly, 1999. Rabbi
Simcha Kling (1922-1991) was ordained at the Jewish Theological Seminary, where
he also earned a master's degree in Hebrew literature and a doctorate in Hebrew
letters. He was a pulpit rabbi for more than 40 years, serving congregations in
St. Louis, Missouri; Greensboro, North Carolina; and Louisville, Kentucky.
Rabbi Carl M. Perkins, Rabbi Kling's son-in-law, is the spiritual leader of
Temple Aliyah in Needham, Massachusetts. A graduate of Harvard Law School and
the Wexner Graduate Fellowship Program, he earned a master's degree in Talmud
and Rabbinics and was ordained at the Jewish Theological Seminary in 1991.