Contemporary Wedding Issues
Many couples address their discomfort with the one-sidedness of the erusin by holding a "double-ring ceremony," in which the woman gives the man a ring at some point during the ceremonies under the huppah. This, however, does not ameliorate the halakhic (legal) problem of acquisition, but only makes it mutual--and, in fact, traditional rabbis either forbid such a ceremony outright or dub it as "hevel v'shtut" (vanity and foolishness).
Although most traditional Jews reject homosexuality as a Torah prohibition, rabbis in the other movements are asking a set of related questions about the issue of same-sex marriage: Does the biblical prohibition against homosexuality mean that any overt display of homosexuality should be shunned by the Jewish community? If we accept modern understandings of homosexuality as genetically determined, can we reinterpret the biblical prohibition? If yes, do we then support monogamous homosexual unions, both civil and religious? If the answer is yes to both, does it make sense to define same-sex unions according to the concept of marriage delineated in Jewish text?
As the movements have sought to adapt Jewish tradition to modern secular values with regard to homosexuality, they have come up with different solutions. With extremely rare exception, Orthodox rabbis reject same-sex marriage. Within Conservative Judaism, there are voices for change, although the movement's law committee has rejected same-sex marriage based on the biblical prohibition against homosexuality. The Reform movement, while it wholly accepts civil same-sex marriage, has also struggled with the appropriate way to handle religious same-sex unions. The Reconstructionist movement supports civil same-sex marriage as well as full inclusion of gay men and lesbians in all aspects of Jewish life, including the affirmation of homosexual relationships in a Jewish context.
Halakhic change is an evolving process, and the contemporary social climate is pressing Jewish marriage to change. The pain and suffering of Jewish homosexuals and lesbians, of agunot chained to their recalcitrant husbands, and of women forced to assume secondary roles won't go away, and Jewish tradition in all its denominations, liberal and traditional, is responding through new interpretations, revised rituals, and even new legal instruments.
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