Taking the Christmas out of Hanukkah
As American Jews, we face the challenge of preserving the Jewish ideals of Hanukkah in the midst of a commercialized Christmas-oriented society.
Here are some tips to help:
** Double Chai: The average U.S. family will spend $813 on gifts, some surveys say. By capping our own spending at $36 per person we can acknowledge the gift-giving season without going too commercial. It will also model for your children restraint and financial planning. Why 36? Because it is double 18, which in the Jewish tradition of assigning numerical values to letters equals chai, meaning "life." Multiples of $18 are therefore common amounts for Jews to give as gifts.
** Love, Love, Love: What our children really want, especially if they are young, is more fun family time. We need to weaken the societal linkage between love and big presents. Since we love our families, try to come home early every night of Hanukkah for candle lighting, cooking, stories, and games.
** Tzedakah [charity]: Bring your children to a toy store, and give them a budget to buy two toys for a children's shelter. Also give your children money for tzedakah and help them pick appropriate causes. By helping the less fortunate, children better understand the many blessings in their lives.
** Enjoy the lights: Our daughters love the galaxies of colorful lights that appear in the evening. Appreciate beauty wherever you see it, whether in a pine tree or in a snow-covered field. Just because the lights are not Jewish lights does not mean they pose a spiritual threat.
** Blackout: During the month of December, we limit more than usual the amount of television we allow our children to watch because of the endless Christmas commercials, references, and shows. December is the month when we introduce more Jewish videos (check out the Alef, Bet...Blastoff! series) and audio tapes and keep the TV and radio off.
** Food: Yes, latkes and many creative recipes are available. But the Maccabees did not eat latkes; they only celebrated the miracle of the oil burning eight days. The wok could be a new symbol of Hanukkah and Jews should innovate far more with cooking with oil.
Most importantly, celebrating Hanukkah should not be done in a spiritual vacuum. When I ask Aliza, my eldest, if she would like to celebrate Christmas, she answers very proudly, "No." And then she sometimes gives me a lecture about those poor Christians who only have one or two big holidays while Jews are blessed to have so many holidays and Shabbat!
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