For four years, two smart emissaries for the Jewish Agency for Israel have organized an annual weekend retreat for Russian-speaking American Jews called Mitbachon, Hebrew for “kitchenette.” The goal of the retreat is to help connect post-Soviet Jews, who are presumed to have little connection to Jewish identity, to one another and, in the process, encourage them to be more Jewish. This year, I was invited to be one of the presenters.
After checking into a non-descript hotel in the suburbs of San Francisco, I slipped into one of the evening roundtable sessions. Thirty Russian-speaking Jews were each holding a paper hand, traced off of their own, with each finger describing one of their connections to Jewish identity. It was one of those slightly corny oh-so-American Jewish camp tricks to get the participants thinking about things Jewish and over-sharing personal feelings on the first night of the retreat.
The participants, ranging in age from their mid-20s to late 30s, were good sports, as they held up their little hands and spoke from the heart. And nearly all of them were doing it in Russian. Most of the participants had been in the United States for many years, some longer in the US than in the former Soviet Union. Though they normally speak English on the streets and Russian with their parents, at the retreat, Russian was what brought them together. Perhaps like Yiddish was to immigrant Jewish families 80 years ago, Russian is a Jewish linguistic marker of these young adults’ past and present.
Anti-Semitism & Alienation
Many in the room that night spoke wistfully about how food connected them to Jewish culture and identity, some mentioned grandparents and parents, and then one woman stopped the room in its tracks. “I’m sorry to say, but anti-Semitism is what made me a Jew. How can I not remember feeling so alienated from my neighbors and fellow students back in Russia.” Nods went around the room.
In fact, every single Mitbachon participant with whom I spoke had experienced some form of discrimination because of his or her Jewishness. I was surprised that so many of them wanted to talk about anti-Semitism, and was frankly not sure that spending so much time speaking about their anti-Semitic Soviet pasts was the best way to foster positive Jewish identity in America.
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